Time Out
Time Out / Negative
In Brief
In order to make children act better, we make them feel worse.
Quotes
“Humiliation and shame foster revenge and rebellion.” ~ Unknown
“Negative ‘time outs’ are usually imposed during the midst of parental meltdowns.” ~ Anonymous
Time Out / Positive
In Brief
Time out creates breathing space, allowing both children and adults to calm down.
Sports
Stops the clock. Catch one’s breath, figure out what’s not working and come up with a new plan.
Grandma’s lap
A positive time out can be a nurturing experience that lasts a lifetime.
Pro Tip
Attend to what is, focus on breath, heed your body.
Quotes
“I took a time out for life.” ~ J. Brooks
“The opportunity to step away from everything and take a break is something that shouldn’t be squandered.” ~ H. Reed
Client / Therapist
Client:
“I get overwhelmed and can’t figure out what to say or do.”
Therapist:
“Next time you are triggered, form a ‘T’ with your hands, like time out in football, to buy time.”
Resources
Websites
Positivediscipline.com
Movies
Groundhog Day
The Bucket List
Bruce Almighty
Peaceful Warrior
The Family Man
Books
Using Your Time Wisely
~ D. Lariviere
The Power of Now
~ E. Tolle
The Power of Positive Thinking
~ N.V. Peale
Time Out Pros
Me-time. “Time you enjoyed wasting was not wasted.” ~ John Lennon
Time Out Cons
Can turn into a vegetative state. “We must use time as a tool, not a couch.” ~ John F. Kennedy
