Divorce
In Brief
A key issue is mutuality and how burdens and responsibilities develop.
Sometimes the hardest thing and the right thing are the same.
Divorcing brides regularly tell psychotherapists they knew it was wrong walking down the aisle.
Ultimate question
“Is he/she good for me?” ~ Anonymous
Quotes
“Divorce is like an amputation: you survive, but there’s less of you.” ~ M. Atwood
“Divorce is the psychological equivalent of a triple coronary bypass.” ~ M. Blakely
DIVORCE (Children)
In Brief
Abandonment, Denial, Insecurity, Anger, Immaturity, Blame, Guilt, Acting out.
Quotes
Child Coping Issues: Identification with same-sex parent, Filling gaps, Triangulation.
“You can’t underestimate how traumatic divorce is for children.” ~ I. Fisher
Children secretly believe they can fix things.
Resources
Websites
Kidsfirst.org
Divorcenet.com
Uptopparents.com
Afccnet.org
Movies
The Squid and the Whale
Kramer vs. Kramer
An Unmarried Woman
Mrs. Doubtfire
Books
The No-Nonsense Divorce Handbook
~ C. Cardelus
Divorce and Children
~ J. McBride
Therapy Pros
Vent innermost hurt and anger. Rebuild self-esteem, communication, intimacy. ~ C. Nunoo
Therapy Cons
“Ironically, divorce is more likely with therapy than without it.” ~ J. Gottman
